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Friday, May 17, 2013

That little “STUPID” cat!!



That little “STUPID” cat!!


I never been a cat person, always considered myself as a dog person more or less, always wanted to have pets, but my baba told me and still tells me over & over again that at the end the hurting of losing a pet is so much that I can never could have handle that, & I never really believed that. One day like nothing special a cat family came to our home, it’s like a stray cat family mama cat, papa cat and two adorable little kittens, they always used to come during the lunch time at the beginning, and we used to leave a amount of food for them in a place and they used to eat together, the kittens were too small to eat solid foods they were so depended on their mother. After someday the mama cat and two kittens started to spend the whole day in the garden in front of our home, playing chasing each other, climbing on trees, they were so full of life and me and my family used to look at them and smile, it was fun to watch them playing like that. The kittens were getting used to us, first they kept their distances, but slowly they started to come close and started to play with us.

But after some time, the little kittens were still so small and vulnerable, had been left alone by their mama cat & papa cat, the two little kittens were in our garden and backyard looking for food but they could not eat just fish and solid foods, we tried to feed them milk but they did not eat that, but they eat little portion of rice mix with milk and they used to eat very little, days were passing by, the little one among the both of them were getting weak, eat less lying on the floor of the garden in sunlight, it was winter then, they were both so alone just for each other, the little one stop eating we tried everything even tried to put food in his mouth but nothing, in the meantime a new kitten came to the territory, chubby little cat, she was more lively then that two little brothers, but they became friends and started to play together, three of them, became a family of their own, in the meantime one of the brothers the big one( not that big ) bigger than the smallest, started to get close to our family, try to play with us, roll over on our foot, look up and do the kitten face, it spend more time with me and my father then other two. Still they were free cats, we gave them food every day and they stay and play all day and leave in nights where we don’t know.

In that time I made a mistake, a mistake of naming them, I personalized them, the chubby little kitten Mini, the little one Auti, and the play full brother Stupid, because he was kind of stupid, never were able to find food on his own, I had to stand with him while eating or he would leave the food and follow me, I had to make a separate spot for him, because he was a slow eater. One day the little Auti came to our garden with a large spot of blue paint on his leg, it was so horrible to think someone will throw chemical color on him, I could not help him to clean his leg cause he was not that friendly and extremely afraid of the water, the little one was getting weaker by the day one day he disappeared never came back. I could see that Stupid was sad and alone without his brother, and Mini was there, she played with him and took care of him.

They lived happily for a period of time, and without noticing the Stupid became a member of my family, started to sleep on a chair in our porch, always looking for an excuse to get inside the rooms, when I used to study  he used to come and quietly sat in front of me and sit still for hours. I thought he can understand our language somewhat, whenever I called, he used to come running and start rolling over like a dog in front of me and look at me. He used to follow my father whenever he go outside.

I never was a cat person, and never believed that it will hurt this much after witnessing Stupid’s death like this. I had to write this, this pain is so real that I need to write, I know with time it will fade away and I will not miss that little cat this much but now it is hard to look around, we never thought he became so important to us. For some days he was sick, some animal, dog or cat may scratched him, he became weak and thin and so lifeless, I had to fed him milk forcefully sometime, he was in pain and looking to me and calling me, his little body was hurting, and I could not do anything, where I live there is  no animal shelter, or no place for animal treatment, here people don’t get sometime good treatment, so even we were human still so helpless, yesterday he just slept on that chair eat nothing just water, in night cried like a human and this morning I had to see his lifeless little body.

It was so painful for me witnessing my little buddy suffer like that and today he is nowhere. He was more like a dog than cat weird, smart and stupid in the same time little scared cat I don’t know where is his little brother alive or not but I hope this little guy will get a better life next time if he has nine lives this one should be the worst and only should get better next 8 times. I know my pain will go away I will be busy with my life and may be one day I will forget all about this little cat, that is why I needed to write these words, it is hurting me so much, but Stupid should be remembered like this once, he deserve this, I am missing him today so bad, and believing the words of my father that losing a pet hurts very much, but still I am happy to know that he felt safe in my home and the pain worth that, now I know I am not only dog person I am kind of a person who cries when any friend levees. 

Saturday, May 4, 2013

Rain ohh rain !!



Rain ohh rain !!

It’s been very hot three days in a row, hot like my head stopped working, I am just day dreaming about water, drinking it jumping into rivers, it’s so hot that I am dreaming about ice age and ice all around, I am more like a winter kind of a girl, never liked summer, & now it is even extremely hard to just live a day without turning into a complete grumpy. It is good that my home is surrounded by many trees and it is quite green, but still a little patch of green can’t fight this type of heat. My friends are saying that it is not that hot, there are places that are way hotter now than my little town. I can’t even imagine that, even the trees of my backyards are sad and weak, the grasses are getting brown there is dust everywhere, like no happiness anywhere.

I enjoy winter, the cold mornings, the days filled with energy and fun, can do lot of work without getting tired or heat stricken by sun, I miss any season that is not summer or this type of hot headed summers in particular. It is getting warmer and everyone knows that, how could not we know that we the mighty human made our world this way by our little bombings here and there, little cutting of trees, getting rid of forests and its inhabitants, covering up ponds to make bigger houses, we are progressing right? So why not, a little over the head hot summer?  it’s nothing in the comparison of our developments. It is collateral damage, nothing more than that.

Yes this is the words help us sleep in the nights that all of these is normal and little sacrifices for a great civilization. I don’t want to sound psycho or depressed, all of this is nothing but heat talking not me, but all mighty civilizations ended, and they ended their journey by progressing that way. It’s more like cycle thing, do these and suffer those in return, like no forest crazy summers kind of way. We just forget the tolls that we are putting on stakes for our journey to development. It is not like we should not progress it is just we should think or do things in a more sensitive manner, think deeply before doing something and then do in a right way.

We inherited our world from our ancestors all the good things they gave us also all the bad things came along with that, now it is our time and duty to leave behind good stuff and a secure world for our future, and also learn from the past mistakes of our ancestors and leave only good things, not bad and scary future. We all know how this world is changing, the summer of my childhood and today’s summer is not the same, we can feel the change, so with that we should change to for the better, we cannot stop what is already happened but we can change what is going to happen.
Still the heat is talking, no sign of rain, every time I look upon the window see a single leaf moving my heart hopes for a rain a little rain for the sad trees of my backyard, for the brown grasses and yes of course for me too.


Friday, May 3, 2013

Being simply human!


Being simply human!

Being simply human is really enough for us? Why so insecure in the way of looking things, why scared, why so confused that need something more than human to blame or to pray or to cry, is one human cannot help or save or kill another human? Why blame something out of the world to explain human life and the design of this universe? 

Every choice we make creates a unique design by which we get as result of our action, forget about the parallel universes created from different choices, still we make one and only choice and we get a result, like a video game stimulation, our step will create a result, now this is how this things was designed. So life like a huge life like stimulation with many choices and many outcomes, our single decision can only make. So why do we need to be guarded, even psychologically by an inhuman entity. I don’t know if I am religious or atheist but I am damn proud to be a human, I can think, I can feel I can dream, I can create art, can write stories, it’s like creating own universe on tiny dimension, I and only I can choose my decisions so why I have to be so weak to know what is wrong and what is right by myself.

As a human being I know what is bad for me and other people, how can I help someone or can hurt someone or how I should not hurt anyone all the code to do good and live is in our head, no one has to dictate that, or restrict us to do new things, learn new things. If there was fear and lack of imagination or close mind we would have still living in the caves. 

Most of us know what to do or what should do, and many brave people saved us millions of time throughout our history, many geniuses changed the way of life the way of thinking, many kind men showed millions of people the way of knowledge nonviolence and love, all of them were human, flesh and blood, one of our own, so why not give them some respect and believe in humanity, why not live like a human for human and be a better human. Nothing matters, all we believe is our own creation, we ask the questions, we usually find them out, why not just look, and live. That is not enough? How hating someone for their beliefs, their lifestyle or being scared of any new things will help us to go forward? Is that is the way? Or making our own way is much better option than believing in any fiction just to hide our own evil and insecurities?

Wednesday, May 1, 2013

Married to a stranger, reason please!!!


Married to a stranger, reason please!!!

Marriage was and is and will be for a long time one of the most important part of an Indian girl or boy’s life, from the childhood many of us just dream about getting married, the dresses, the fun the colorful ceremony and all, our imagination runs wildly since we start playing with our gudda guddy toys. It’s like a destination for our whole life, and all of us just live according to the expectations of this one ceremony, how a girl should act her whole life depends on her future marriage, for a very long period the importance of boys was grew because of the importance of groom in Indian marriages, the marriage industry control many aspect of our day to day life. Now why this marriage is so important, it is known to us as a sacred relation, the love or family gets its validation with this ceremony, nothing could go bad after marriage, this one thing can purify all bad stuff. Is it just a social contract between two people, that no economic problem can come later, is it an identity to the girls they are now bound with someone forever like for next 7 lives or so. Now why this is so so much important in our society, why should anyone get married, what are the reasons behind a marriage? The reason and only the reason itself can determined if the ceremony is sacred or not, a sacred pure reason can make a marriage most adorable thing in the world and a depraved reason can turn it to a huge hypocrisy.

I grew up in a small Indian town and witnessed like hundreds of wedding, it is a huge number I know but it is true every year I had to or still have to attend one or three wedding ceremonies for sure, family, friends, neighbors and so on, I always liked the ceremony, the whole energetic fun part but some time I never liked the back stage events, the sadness of a girl living her whole life behind forever, the heart broken father and mother left behind, now a days there is very little family left with 3 or 4 children, it’s like one or two, sometime it is hard to see a whole home becoming empty just like that, it is sad, then the pressure of money,  the things behind the wedding alter like new bed, wardrobes, freeze, TV and stuff looks like a house hold supermarket why the girl going to a house where is nothing, why not girl and boy make a home of their own and not pressuring poor parents to make their home for them?

Now the topic of love, the whole life we heard don’t talk to a stranger, and in a arrange marriage often after a month or a week even the girl has to move forever with a stranger, how can a person can know a person or fall in love with a person in that short period of time, or falling in love is not necessary for our marriage? Like a girl has to deal with everything after a marriage, even a boy has to do the same thing. So why is getting married if you don’t love your future partner, what is the reason behind that? It is not a logical or good explanation behind that, we all witnessed sometime that if a girl is not good in studies or failing an exam or having a boy problem only solution is a marriage, nothing matters no job no economic independency no feelings, because after marriage her husband will be responsible for her, he will provide her with food clothing, day to day things, he will be her guardian and her own flesh and blood parents will be free from their duties of protecting someone else’s property. It is so brutally ridiculous to process in a mature free minded head.  

What is more pure than love and respect for someone, it is so sweet to spend the whole life with someone that you love and respect and adore, for better and worst, but why not getting that chance why not make a life before change it completely. Some of my friends felt so relived after getting married that they don’t have to think about job or study or for a career anymore, it was their career, they need their husband they depended on them are they love them or committing to a social contract for a better, idle and safe life. It is not bad for a girl to be a housewife and nurture her family her loved ones but if that became an excuse to do nothing with life or a tool of avoiding the real herding of life is it still so pure?

Two people should unite for their common love not for economic pressure or social expectation, marriage should be a beautiful part of life a way to celebrate the love and happiness not a contract to fulfill the materialistic needs, and it should be for right reasons. A girl born in the family a common poor family the first thought come to her peers that how they will able to get her a good married life, the first glimpse of a baby stairs a fear in her parent's mind, not joy, not love but fear, all of because boys are important not girls, because a boy has to take care of a girl as a father as a brother or as a husband, he may be wanted and special but the immense pressure on him is undeniable because they can’t expect a life partner, they have to be a guardian. So how it is fair to any one boy or a girl? The lack of responsibility, freedom is sad, the power the guardianship the authority is dangerous, and how this peculiar dynamo can create a sacred relation? I don’t know never was able to get this concepts, what is going on for a very long time is not word on a stone, if past define could us then we never should have evolved from apes the homosepians.