Selflessly Selfish or Selfishly Selfless!!!

Selflessly Selfish or Selfishly Selfless!!!

What one should be like, selflessly selfish or selfishly selfless!!! It sure sounds like a tongue twister but it is the story of life. No one consciously most of the time want to be a selfish person, just can’t act like a selfless one, some people are selfless no matter what but they are quite conscious about that because being selfless makes them happy they feel satisfaction by a selfless act, which is at the end is very much selfish, but results a good deed, no one can argue that. I am in my cryptic voice saying that no one can be selfless without being naturally selfish. Even in constant need of acquiring a place in heaven religious person acts selflessly, they want a better place after death so they try to act selflessly, so what that makes them?? Little delusional but still selfish, which is natural. A person thinking about people and helping them because that makes them happy and good in the heart so their happiness depends on a selfless act. It is quite complicated isn’t it??

But a selfless act always ends in a good deed, someone helping another without wanting any material stuff in return is very pleasing and assuring that good still exists in this earth, and by a good deed we can start a chain reaction of good in society. But when a selfless act is happens so much consciously that the person acting selflessly actually fueling their own ego and vanity by it, that is very disturbing in a way, what if for some people acting selfless is a way to stay in the limelight and be the center of attraction then what?? In that event the person just stepping toward their own permanent despair and sorrow, when an act being carried out to pump ones ego it cannot be totally satisfying  which can create a feeling of depression and sadness inside that can make someone so negative that they just forgets the pure happiness of being selfless at the first place.

Believing in the fact that we all are naturally selfish but still we can act selfishly selfless can also help us to control our own ego. Knowing the limits of our goodness and the faults that we have, keeps us in the check and we just need to feel good nothing more than that by a single act of kindness. I want to feel happy by helping someone in need and by that I am hoping in near future when I will be in a sticky position someone will help me, and by hoping that I should know that I am selfish by nature and that is my limit, so my ego can never grow and be out of control. I know some people personally who like to brag their good deeds and how great and kind they are that they help everyone around them selflessly, sometime by harming their own interest in the process, but wants the same thing from other people, the expectation is so great that they often get awfully disappointed and unhappy and frustrated. By doing something for someone they need exactly that type of sacrifices from that person is not healthy for either of them. Help from a needy person like that can be feel like a huge burden and by helping with that much expectation can be very disturbing and mentally dis-satisfactory.

No human being is completely good or bad, act selfish or preserving our own priorities are our basic nature or better to say our basic instinct, but with our those basic limits still we developed some philosophy and belief system that we can act selflessly and feel happiness by doing so. It is satisfactory to be kind and helping to others, which can make us happy, but imposing that which we are not can make the situation far worse than it is already. No one should make them do something just to be popular and well-known, when a person themselves believe that they are saint like or the most good and kind hearted person in the world and people should feel gratitude towards them all the time, that is the time that person needs therapy. Expectation can make someone depressed and mentally sad, and frustrated; the people try to act nice just to get attention is more danger to themselves than others. Considering the fact that we are not perfect and little selfish can help us to be selfless in a nicer and wiser way.