Family tree!!!

Family tree!!!

“Family” is indeed the most important part of our life, getting along with family is hard, growing without family is painful, it can make someone stronger and happier also can ruin someone, but whatever the pros and cons, family is a huge part of all of our lives. Some has small family some has big, some functional some dysfunctional, some nice some rude some normal and some weird but all of us have a family, if we don’t, we try to find one our whole life, this is how much important this family thing is. Once a girl wanted to make a family tree for her family, but her family was little, her mom dad some close unties and uncle very little one, she wanted a bigger tree for her, she wanted to find the lost family members, the lost relations, connected by blood but parted by time, circumstances, misunderstandings, she believed that the connection is so powerful that can unite the messed up relations if just she finds them all.

But the bigger picture is not always rainbows and unicorns, the time, the bad circumstances was not the only thing that parted her family before, the people in those relationship did that, slowly unknowingly, by growing different and separated by different views, the relationship was there but the hearts were not combined, it was scattered, full of despair, hatred, greed and violence, she wished that it would have been better if she could have satisfied by her small tree, being naive is much better option than see all the nasty truth upfront, she thought she will belong she will feel connected to her lost family but she did not feel anything, there was nothing more than a totally strange feeling, that she did not like them. She was shocked, why? She did not feel the bond with them? They were biologically, genetically connected with them so where the love?

That was a transformation from them, she was being shallow before by wanting to make her family tree bigger, she should have only try to nourish what she had since her birth, she should have only think about the people who loved her understood her and it was her family, may be tiny but secure, lovable, maybe there was a reason behind why some of her relations were lost, it meant to be that way. The girl knew she had a small family but she was part of a huge forest  with different trees, and bushes, and huge old trees, she has many friends, the friends who loves her, supports her stand beside her in hard time, her little family was very strong and uncorrupted, that was the day she finally knew blood, genes or same biology does not matter, what matters is pure love, respect and the day to day life sharing alongside with each other, the people grow older grow different and choose different paths, and with time they don’t belong together, they becomes a part of a whole new different forest, and a little tree grows too, spread her branches and stands tall and dream of being an old huge tree someday, but by standing on the roots that she had forever beneath her, that is the connection which matters, and that is what families stands for, the roots of our life.